forgiving and being forgiven are two names for the same thing.  the important thing is that a discord has been resolved.

~ c.s. lewis

the very best gift you can give someone is absolutely free.  it's also freeing.  i have found this gift to be useful in every day life, and in big booming moments, when your heart is weeping and you feel alone and no one can relate.  when you feel coldness in your marriage. when sarcasm with friends burns long after the words have been uttered,  when your littles are disrespectful and have no idea how much you sacrifice for them.   {like when they want to do a cheerleading camp that cost $300, and you skimp and save and forgo those pots and pans that would make your food the bee's knees!}  when you feel defeated and tired,  and you can't possibly give one more thing.

  this gift, my friends is forgiveness.  it's powerful, it's real, it's life changing.  the road to forgiveness is hard, make no mistake, but when you say... I FORGIVE__________.  you just made your heart grow a little.  a little more room for patience, respect, and love.  it's the only think i of know that can bless you and another person in one single action. i have a list of things and people that i need to forgive,  A LIST  and when i do it, i know i will become lighter, free, but most of all healing will come and from that place of birth, love will follow too.  and that is worth every pain staking  step on my journey.  do you need to forgive somebody?  take that journey and welcome healing.